Nobody can love another person if they don’t love themself. So love yourself. Don’t worry about someone else’s selfishness, worry about your own selfishness. Work at loving yourself.
When you love yourself, you feel beautiful. You feel such goodness in you that you couldn’t hurt an ant. Then you will know, in every moment, how to love another person.
Work at yourself. Love yourself, be kind to yourself. Get rid of your own selfishness—the ‘me and mine, me and mine, me, me, me’. Try to realise something deeper than that. Then, it’s easy to love another.
Join a Sangha that cultivates self-love—true self-love, not ego-love. Learn how to love yourself from a Master.
Make a commitment and take a vow that, “For the rest of my life, I’m going to make that the number one priority in my life. With my whole heart and soul, with every breath, with every step I take, I will cultivate kindness, compassion and love for myself. I will cultivate goodness in myself, because I want to know that natural Self in me, the beautiful true Self that I’ve read about.”
When you do that, then love towards others will happen automatically, and your love will be like the sun just shining out. The sun doesn’t favour certain things. It doesn’t shine less on a person who is selfish, so it doesn’t have to worry about who is selfish and it doesn’t have to learn how to shine on the selfish one. It just shines on the whole planet.
So all we have to do is shine. Love yourself, and let it shine outwards. Then that love will extend to everyone, equally.