Dealing with Negative People
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In this article, Master Healer Sri Avinash shares how to deal with so called ‘negative people’, sharing how to maintain compassion as well as inner strength.
Seeing negative people
There are two aspects to dealing with negative people. One aspect is the correct perception of what you call a negative person. For me, when I look around I actually don’t see negative people. There’s no such thing as a negative person in my being.
I see everybody is exactly the same as me — happy. The only difference is they just don’t know it! They’ve forgotten. So, all we have to do is give them a friendly reminder that they are actually already happy, and then they can let go of the false thoughts of who they are.
So it’s a certain way of seeing people. Because when you see what you call negative people, the more that you see how negative someone is, the more the impact that has on you.
For example, let me share with you a metaphor that comes to me right now. It’s a silly metaphor, but it helps to depict this. Let’s say it’s a person’s destiny to be bitten by a dog, on their calf muscle. It’s not a good thing — no one wants that, but let’s say they can’t avoid being bitten.
Now, imagine that whatever type of dog the person sees, becomes the reality. So, if they see a big dog coming to bite them, they’re not going to have much calf muscle left. But if they see that dog as only a tiny Chihuahua, when they get bitten, it will still hurt a bit, but they’re not going to lose their whole calf muscle.
In the same way, when you see a negative person, the way you see that person has an impact on you. If you’re seeing that a person you’re living with or working with is very negative, then each time they’re rude to you, it feels like a big dog biting you, not a little Chihuahua!
So that’s one way of dealing with negative people. You’ve got to have the right mindset.
Cultivating the right mindset
Ideally, when you see people, you don’t see them as negative. You just see, “Oh my God, that person’s a Saint, so kind and loving. They’ve just forgotten.”
It’s like they’ve just fallen over recently and they have amnesia. They’ve forgotten, but once they remember again, once they recover from the amnesia, they’re going to be full of kindness, an amazing Saint.
So you don’t see the negative person, you see a Saint.
Don’t see with your mind, because your mind will say, “That person is an idiot, they stuffed up!” or whatever.
Just see the person as a Saint, don’t see them as a negative person. That’s one way of dealing with negative people.
Cultivate inner strength
A second way to deal with negative people is to develop your own strength. Because if that dog is going to bite you, you want to make sure that you are strong! If you’re weak and your immune system is weak, then when that dog bites you, if it has some disease, you’re going to experience it in a bad way.
You want to be strong and healthy, by exercising, doing self-healing, meditating, praying to God for blessings, and being kind to humanity. Because when you are kind to humanity, people love you and they give you their blessings as well.
When you do these things, your immune system is strong and the Source is flowing to you, so when the dog bites you, it feels like, “Ouch, I didn’t need that!” But then you look at it, and most of the calf muscle is still there. It might be drawing some blood, so you go to the doctor and do whatever is necessary, but you know it’s going to heal up.
When you have that strength, negativity becomes no problem at all.
Running away from negative people is not the answer
It’s much better to strengthen yourself than to run away from negative people. Where are you going to run away to? The whole planet is, generally speaking, at the moment, negative!
We are living today in what is called the Kali Yuga in India, or the Dark Age. We’re going to move to the Golden Age very soon, but right now we’re still at the tail end of the Dark Age. That means that almost everyone is pretty much negative. So, where are you going to run away to?
Maybe you could just isolate yourself, not see anybody, hide away from people. But after three months you’re going to miss people. What are you going to do then? You’re going to be looking for people, “Oh, I’m a bit lonely. I want a boyfriend or a girlfriend.” You’re going to be looking, because you’re going to miss people!
So, it is much better to strengthen yourself than to hide away from people.
How to strengthen yourself
Strengthen yourself by opening up your heart, letting go of the negative energy out of you — all that fear, and all the rules you have in your mind. You can do this through self-healing, kindness to humanity, meditation and reading spiritual books.
Meditate daily — as much as you can! On my spiritual journey, when I was meditating, I was meditating from the moment my eyes opened in the morning all the way until my eyes were closed at night. I had that mindset every moment.
You don’t have to meditate as much as that, unless you want to attain enlightenment. But meditate!
Read beautiful spiritual books — books that open your heart. Read autobiographies of great Masters and great Saints. Because whatever you see, whatever goes in your mind, becomes reality. So, when you read about these great Masters’ lives, somehow that just goes into you. How they actually are — their Saintliness — goes into you. But when you read these books, read with your open heart, otherwise you’ll just be getting more intellectual knowledge and clogging up your mind.
Summary
So those are the two ways to deal with what you call negative people.
- Don’t see people as negative — see that they are already Saints but they don’t know it; and
- Strengthen yourself, so that when the bite comes, when people are rude to you, it feels like, “Oh, that’s nothing, that just tickled.”
When your attitude is like that, you have nothing to worry about!
