How to Be Loving

In this talk I would like to share with you how to love—how to love yourself, how to love humanity, and how to love the Creator. The way to truly love, as a practice. Not in words, but as a verb, a doing—how to do it, how to love.

It sounds silly to teach you how to love when our whole nature, our whole being, is nothing but the embodiment of love. In every single person on the planet there’s that divine love. Our nature is divine love. We are the embodiment of love.

And here I am trying to teach you, who is the embodiment of love, how to love. That sounds silly, but unfortunately in our world we get caught up by so many things in life, and so much delusion and confusion, that somehow the embodiment of love forgets that it’s love. And actually forgets how to love. This causes all sorts of problems in life. It causes mental disturbance and mental illness, and that leads to an imbalance in the physical body, and then physical sickness.  And of course spiritual non-fulfilment.

So I want to teach you how to actually love. Many poems and talks have been made about love—the beauty of love and the importance of love. But it’s very rare that you actually hear how to love.

On my spiritual journey I wondered myself, ‘How do I actually love? What do I do? How do I love?’ So now I want to share with you how to love.

You see, love is not just words. For example you might say to your dear ones, ‘I love you, my darling, I love you.’ And in those few seconds there is love for your loved ones. In your heart there’s love.

But then what happens after that sentence is that the feeling of love stops. So there’s love there—‘I love you so much my darling’—and then it stops.

It doesn’t quite stop, but it kind of just stays assumed. It’s off in the background—what I call passive. It moves to what you call dormant, passive, love. So the love’s still there for your family, your dear ones, and your loved ones, but it becomes kind of non-active.

When you love others actively it’s much, much more powerful than when you love them passively. It benefits the person much, much more, and it benefits yourself much, much more. So I want to teach you how to do that.

How to love yourself

The first thing I am going to teach you is how to love yourself. When you want to love yourself, what do you do? Do you just say to yourself, ‘Ah, I love myself, I love myself.’ I mean, what do you actually do?

I’ll teach you what you do.

First, you try to feel the spirit in you. You imagine it, and if you can’t see the spirit in you (most people can’t physically see the spirit in them) you just assume there’s a spirit in you, there’s a being in you, there’s a spirit in you that’s actually you.

You are not only flesh and blood. No, no, no, that’s only the dense part of you. You’re actually the spirit. Ultimately this spirit is the essence of you, residing in your body.

So, you see or feel that spirit, or you assume that spirit is there, and you just feel yourself loving that. Like for example, right now I’m feeling my spirit in my being, and I’m just sending love to that spirit. I’m sending divine love to that spirit right now…just gently…I’m loving that spirit in my being…and I can feel that spirit loves it—loves that my instrument is loving it so much. You see, it loves it.

So you basically send love to that spirit.

Don’t try to think analytically—what’s you? what’s the spirit?—and all of that. Just simply send love to the spirit.

And when you do that even for one minute, it feels amazing. That feels beautiful, beautiful.

Well, that’s exactly how you love yourself. It’s so easy to do.

But don’t do it for a minute. Do it for every moment you can. Every spare moment—every spare moment that you don’t have to focus on anything else, for your work or whatever. If you’re at the bus stop, if you’re waiting for someone, or whatever you’re doing, just direct your love to that spirit in you.

If you do this for even half an hour a day, let alone many hours—half an hour a day, and your life will be totally transformed. You won’t have to learn anything else, your life will be totally transformed.

It will clear your problems and you’ll start to feel this divine power inside you—it awakens this magnificent, divine being in you. And the divine package that comes with that is self-confidence, intuition, insight, gentleness, compassion, goodness, gratefulness, clarity, strength, fearlessness. All this is going to come to you.

That’s how you love yourself. It’s so easy, anyone can do that—a child can do that.

Now, I want to move one step further than that.

How to Love the Creator

The next way to express that love in you is to love the Creator. To love the Source, to love God—whatever name you call it.

It’s the same way that you love yourself, you’re just directing it to a different aspect of divinity. Before, you were directing that love towards your spirit in your being, which is actually the divine essence (the Source, or God) that’s in you. Now, you’re just directing that love to the Source outside of you, that’s all. So it’s not too different.

So, what you would do is this. Search for the Creator for five seconds or so. Search for the Creator, that Spirit, the Supreme Being of the whole universe. And then you just assume that the Supreme Being Spirit hears you and suddenly it shows up. You just assume that. You can just assume that because it’s actually true. The Supreme Being is everywhere, so when you search for the Supreme Being that Being shows up immediately. It hears everything you say, it feels you, it knows everything.

So, spend five seconds searching for that, and then you assume that the Supreme Being shows up. And then you just direct your love to that Supreme Being.

I’m doing that right now, to show you how I do it.

So, I found that Supreme Being, that Spirit, and I’m sending love to that. All my love to that Spirit…

And I just mix in a little bit of what I call adoration, or reverence, towards that Supreme Being, together with my love…

If you look at me now, my being just becomes so peaceful and beautiful straight away.

So that’s how you love the Supreme Being. Even in those few seconds, my face starts to change, there’s a magic, there’s a spark, there’s something beautiful there.

That’s how to actually love the Supreme Being, and that’s the benefit that you get.

This is innate—anyone can do this. No-one owns this, it’s just natural in our being. We don’t have to be trained to do this. A five-year-old child, who doesn’t know anything much about life, can easily do this. The child doesn’t have to have any knowledge, any prerequisites. Anyone can do this.

How to Love the Whole of Humanity

OK, now, we can do exactly the same thing by directing this love that we have to the whole of humanity. Basically, I just direct my love with the intention that my love is going to reach the whole of humanity. That’s all—as simple as that. It’s just an intention that my love is going to reach the whole of humanity at the same time.

And when I do this you might even be able to pick up my love, because you’re part of humanity. Even though I’m not directing it to you individually—I’m sending it to the whole of humanity—you might be able to pick that up in your being, my love…

See I’m sending that love to the whole of humanity…

Just like that.

Wow, that felt beautiful. It feels beautiful for me to do that, and the benefits will go to humanity, to everybody, whether they perceive it or not.

I want to share another beautiful aspect about this. You see, when you send love to humanity, the amazing thing is this—not only humanity benefits, but actually you feel the benefit as well. So it’s like a method for you to actually awaken that beautiful divine love in you, but you’re doing it in an easy way. You’re directing it to humanity, so humanity benefits, but ultimately you benefit.

Summary

So I’ve shown you how to love yourself—how to actually love yourself. You can do it for one minute, you can do it for two seconds, you can do it for one hour, you can do it for 10 hours. This is easy stuff, it’s basic, but incredibly powerful. It will change your life.

I’ve shown you how to love the Source, the Creator, and how to love humanity. Now, to love an individual is the exact same thing, but you just direct it to one person.

You can see, that’s very different from saying to someone, ‘I love you.’ I can say to you, ‘I love you, I love you.’ So my love is there, the love is still coming through, but suddenly it stops. Whereas with this technique, this method, you can do it for as long as you want.

That’s the art of loving yourself, the art of loving humanity, the art of loving the Creator.

If you start to practice this and live it in your life, it will be absolutely incredible. Your life will change, your health will improve, peace is going to come to you. All great things will come to you, because your energy will no longer dwell in the sickness and fear energy. The divine love energy will awaken in you and engulf your whole being, and that will be your new energy field—that you enjoy, and anyone who is near you will benefit from.